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*The First Thing you need to know is that the baby inside you is alive. It is a growing, thriving, individual soul.  No matter how small, your baby is a little human preparing itself to come into the world.  If you are pregnant, you are already a mother. Your son or daughter is depending on you to keep him or her safe. 

Pregnant? Scared? Below is a list of people who can help. Your baby wants you to call.




Adoption Agencies

Bethany Christian Services         1-800- Bethany

Mother Goose Adoptions          1-866-892-2229

Everlasting Adoptions                  866-406-2702

*The Second Thing you should know is that you are not alone.  There are many  women in your same situation right now. And many that have been through it before.  There is help for you and your baby.

*Your situation may be difficult. Your pregnancy may be risky. Your baby may have came from a rape. Your baby may just not be wanted. All these things may be true. What is also true, is that your baby loves you regardless. Your baby is a part of you. If you choose to kill your child, it will always be with you. It will never go away. You will always wonder. You will always long for you child. You will always regret it. You will have murder on your hands. If you cannot care for your baby, give them to a family that can. Give your baby a chance. Let them see the world. Let them make you proud. And one day... they will say "Thank you, Mommy!"

Let Them Be Born

*The Third Thing you must know is that abortion is NOT your only option.  In reality, abortion only makes things worse!  If you have no way of caring for your child, do not be afraid. There are thousands of couples that are unable to have children. They are looking for children like your's!  Giving your child to a couple that could raise and love them is the best thing you could do for your baby. 

What REALLY Happens


During the first three months of pregnancy, called the first trimester, there are two common types of abortion. In a suction-aspiration abortion the opening to your womb (cervix) must be stretched open wide. This is difficult because the cervix is closed tight and is hard. Sometimes the abortionist uses long cylindrical rods. Starting from the smallest and moving up in size, he inserts them into your cervical opening, stretching it as he progresses. When the cervix is open wide enough, he will put a hollow plastic tube, with a knife-like edge on its tip, through your cervix up into your uterus. The suction it creates is 29 times more powerful than a vacuum cleaner. It tears the baby’s body into pieces, and sucks it through the tube into a canister. The knife edge is used to cut the deeply rooted placenta from the uterine wall.

In a Dilatation and Curettage (D & C) abortion, first the cervix is stretched open. Then, abortionist inserts a loop-shaped knife (curette) into the uterus. He cuts the placenta and baby into pieces and scrapes them out into a basin. This usually produces a large amount of bleeding.

During the second three months of pregnancy, or second trimester, the Dilatation and Evacuation or (D & E) method is used. The cervix is stretched open using pencil lead sized sticks of highly absorbent material inserted into the cervical opening. Over 24 hours they absorb body moisture and swell, opening the cervix. A long pliers-like instrument is inserted into the uterus. Because the baby is too large to fit through the cervix, the abortionist uses the instrument to grab hold of the baby’s leg or arm and twists until it is torn from the body. That part is then pulled through the cervix. This is repeated limb by limb until the baby has been totally torn apart. The spine must also be snapped, and the skull crushed to remove these pieces. The nurse’s job is to lay all the body parts out to make sure they got the entire baby out of the uterus.

During the last three months, or third trimester, a method called Dilatation and Extraction (D & X), also known as Partial Birth Abortion may be used. The abortionist inserts forceps into the stretched cervical opening. He grabs a leg of the unborn baby and turns the baby into a breech (feet pointing toward the birth canal) position. He then pulls the baby out, except for the head that remains in the birth canal. The baby is alive and moving. The abortionist inserts a sharp scissors into the base of the skull. A tube is inserted into the wound and the brain is sucked out. The now-dead infant is then pulled out.


Unless you are put to sleep for your suction abortion, yes, it will be very painful. The cervix is closed and hard and not prepared to open. The instruments are sharp and the sucking or pulling action is violent in the womb.


Any surgical procedure has risks. This is especially true of abortion. In a paper put out by the Family Planning Associates Medical Group, a group of abortion clinics in Southern California, the following risks are described:

"However, it is clear to us that even when the surgeon is highly skilled and experienced in the method of dilation and extraction (D & E abortion) that there is a risk of perforation of the uterus either by the instruments or by the fetal tissue itself."

What this means is that the instruments the doctor puts through your cervix and into your uterus can make a hole through your uterine wall. It also means that the crushed bones of your baby can cut , slash or puncture your uterus while being removed. Often times the abortionist is not aware that he has done this because he cannot see into the uterus while he works. If this should occur, you would bleed through the hole into your abdominal cavity or vagina. If you do not get into the hospital quickly you could die from loss of blood.

The paper goes on to say that hospitalization is required if the uterus is punctured. Damage to the bowel and bladder, blood transfusions and even a hysterectomy (removal of the uterus) can result.

The greatest risk involved in an early abortion is when the doctor performs an "incomplete abortion". The paper explains it this way, "…the most common problem encountered in termination of early pregnancies is infection and retained tissue (incomplete abortion). " What this means is that parts of the baby are left behind in your uterus. As they rot they cause a severe infection that can cause permanent damage to your female organs. You could become sterile (unable to become pregnant) or miscarry your next baby.

Third trimester abortions are extremely dangerous. The D & X procedure (Partial Birth Abortion) has been denounced as dangerous to the mother by many doctors and medical professionals. Joseph DeCook, Fellow, Am. College of Ob/Gyn has stated:

"There is no literature that testifies to the safety of partial birth (D & X) abortions. It’s a maverick procedure devised by maverick doctors who wish to deliver a dead fetus. Such abortions could lead to infection causing sterility. Drawing out the baby in breech position is a very dangerous procedure and could tear the uterus. Such a ruptured uterus could cause the mother to bleed to death in ten minutes."


Years ago scientists did not know. Now, however, with ultrasound and other methods, they can actually "see" the unborn baby inside of the mother’s womb. Doctors can now open the womb, do surgery on an unborn baby, and close up the womb for the pregnancy to continue normally. One now famous photo shows an unborn baby 21 weeks old reaching out of the womb and grabbing the finger of the surgeon. The surgery was completed and the baby was born healthy months later. There is now no question that it is a living, growing, feeling human being long before birth.


From the photo on the reverse side you can see for yourself that this is a perfectly formed human being. At this stage, even though you feel nothing, your baby is kicking, clenching his fists, curling and fanning his toes, and is generally very active and comfortable inside you.


In the past few years, medical research has shown that unborn babies can feel pain. Dr. H. M. Liley, the leading authority on the study of babies before birth, stated, "When doctors first began invading the sanctuary of the womb, they did not know that the unborn baby would react to pain in the same fashion as a child would. But they soon learned that he would."

Many women in this country have suffered both physically and emotionally from their abortions. They will always regret their decisions. Below, two women share their experiences with you hoping you won’t make the same mistake they did.

"When I returned home I had very heavy bleeding and severe cramps for two days. I was so afraid something was wrong that I called Planned Parenthood who referred me for my abortion. They said I was OK without suggesting an exam. At my after-school job at a dime store, I went to the restroom. It was then I found my baby on my sanitary pad. He had arms and legs with tiny hands and feet. I could make out his little nose and a dark spot that I know was his eye. Even after 10 years, it’s still hard for me to think about it."

Kathy Barlett, Waco, Tx

"Planned Parenthood suggested only an abortion. No other options were ever discussed. They never said the word ‘baby’ – only ‘fetus’. You can’t imagine my shock and horror when I saw my dismembered baby after my ‘nice and easy’ abortion. They deceived me. I’ve suffered severe emotional problems."

Karen Sullivan-Ables Taylor, Az                     


What about rape pregnancies?

We must approach this with great compassion. The woman has been subjected to an ugly trauma, and she needs love, support and help. But she has been the victim of one violent act. Should we now ask her to be a party to a second violent act -that of abortion? Unquestionably, many would return the violence of killing an innocent baby for the violence of rape. But, before making this decision, remember that most of the trauma has already occurred. She has been raped. That trauma will live with her all her life. Furthermore, this girl did not report for help, but kept this to herself. For several weeks or months, she has thought of little else. Now, she has finally asked for help, has shared her upset, and should be in a supportive situation.

The utilitarian question from the mother’s stand-point is whether or not it would now be better to kill the developing baby within her. But will abortion now be best for her, or will it bring her more harm yet? What has happened and its damage has already occurred.

She’s old enough to know and have an opinion as to whether she carries a "baby" or a "blob of protoplasm." Will she be able to live comfortably with the memory that she "killed her developing baby"? Or would she ultimately be more mature and more at peace with herself if she could remember that, even though she became pregnant unwillingly, she nevertheless solved her problem by being unselfish, by giving of herself and of her love to an innocent baby, who had not asked to be created, to deliver, perhaps to place for adoption, if she decides that is what is best for her baby. Compare this memory with the woman who can only look back and say, "I killed my baby."

But carry the rapist’s child?

True, it is half his. But remember, half of the baby is also hers, and there are other outstretched arms that will adopt and love that baby.

I don’t see how she could!

"Interestingly, the pregnant rape victim’s chief complaint is not that she is unwillingly pregnant, as bad as the experience is. The critical moment is fleeting in this area. It frequently pulls families together like never before. When women are impregnated through rape, their condition is treated in accordance, as are their families.

"We found this experience is forgotten, replaced by remembering the abortion, because it is what they did." M. Uchtman, Director, Suiciders Anonymous, Report to Cincinnati City Council, Sept. 1, 1981

"In the majority of these cases, the pregnant victim’s problems stem more from the trauma of rape than from the pregnancy itself.
Mahkorn & Dolan, "Sexual Assault & Pregnancy." In New Perspectives on Human Abortion, University Publishers of Amer., 1981, pp. 182-199 239

As to what factors make it most difficult to continue her pregnancy, the opinions, attitudes, and beliefs of others were most frequently cited; in other words, how her loved ones treated her. Mahkorn, "Pregnancy & Sexual Assault." In Psychological Aspects of Abortion, University Publishers of Amer., 1979, pp. 53-72


If you Adopt....

You will be free to pursue your goals and dreams that you had before you were pregnant.

You will not have to care for a baby before you are ready.

You will not have the financial burden of caring for a child.

You will not have to worry about finding a sitter, missing out on the fun with your friends and being tied down.

When you think of your baby, you will think of him or her as happy and loved by a mommy and daddy.

You will have precious memories of your baby’s face, fingers, toes, eyes and smile.

You will know you gave the greatest gift of all - a child, to a couple whose hope and dream was a baby to love.


If you Abort....

You will be free to pursue your goals and dreams that you had before you were pregnant.

You will not have to care for a baby before you are ready.

You will not have the financial burden of caring for a child.

You will not have to worry about finding a sitter, missing out on the fun with your friends and being tied down.

There is no baby to think of; no smile, no little fingers or toes to remember. You have only the memory that you ended your baby’s life. Instead of feeling good about how your pregnancy ended, you may feel sad and empty. But you can never go back and give that child life! Please take a moment before you make the most important decision of your life. Decisions ... some are small and some are very big. Some don’t affect your life at all . Others have consequences you must deal with the rest of your life.

Testimonies and Confessions of Abortionists

"I want the general public to know what the doctors know- that this is a person, this is a baby. That this is not some kind of blob of tissue."

--Dr. Anthony Levantino

"I was trained by a professional marketing director in how to sell abortions over the telephone. He took every one of our receptionists, nurses, and anyone else who would deal with people over the phone through an extensive training period. The object was, when the girl called, to hook the sale so that she wouldn't get an abortion somewhere else, or adopt out her baby, or change her mind. We were doing it for the money."

--Nina Whitten, chief secretary at a Dallas abortion clinic under Dr. Curtis Boyd

"Sometimes we lied. A girl might ask what her baby was like at a certain point in the pregnancy: Was it a baby yet? Even as early as 12 weeks a baby is totally formed, he has fingerprints, turns his head, fans his toes, feels pain. But we would say 'It's not a baby yet. It's just tissue, like a clot.'"

--Kathy Sparks told in "The Conversion of Kathy Sparks" by Gloria Williamson, Christian Herald Jan 1986 p 28

"I can remember...the resident doctor sitting down, putting the tube in, and removing the contents. I saw the bloody material coming down the plastic tube, and it went into a big jar. My job afterwards was to go and undo the jar, and to see what was inside.

I didn't have any views on abortion; I was in a training program, and this was a brand new experience. I was going to get to see a new procedure and learn. I opened the jar and took the little piece of stockingnette stocking and opened the little bag. The resident doctor said "Now put it on the blue towel and check it out. We want to see if we got it all.' I thought, "that'll be exciting-hands on experience looking at tissue.' I opened the sock up and put it on the towel, and there were parts of a person in there.

I had taken anatomy, I was a medical student. I knew what I was looking at. There was a little scapula and an arm, I saw some ribs and a chest, and a little tiny head. I saw a piece of a leg, and a tiny hand and an arm, and you know, it was like somebody put a hot poker into me. I had a conscience, and it hurt. Well, I checked it out and there were two arms and two legs and one head and so forth, and I turned and said "I guess you got it all.' That was a very hard experience to go through emotionally.

--Former abortionist

"We know that its killing, but the state permits killing under certain circumstances"

--Dr. Neville Sender, abortionist

"I do think abortion is murder- of a very special and necessary sort. And no physician ever involved with the procedure ever kids himself about that."

"You know there is something in there alive that you are killing"

--another abortionist interviewed by Denes

Every woman has these same two questions: First, "Is it a baby?" "No" the counselor assures her. "It is a product of conception (or a blood clot, or a piece of tissue). . .How many women would have an abortion, if they told them the truth?"

--Carol Everett, former owner of two clinics and director of four "A Walk Through an Abortion Clinic" by Carol Everett ALL About Issues magazine Aug-Sept 1991, p 117

"We tried to avoid the women seeing them [the fetuses] They always wanted to know the sex, but we lied and said it was too early to tell. It's better for the women to think of the fetus as an ‘it’.

--Abortion clinic worker Norma Eidelman quoted in Rachel Weeping p 34

"When I first started working there [at the clinic], I had to sit and listen to women answering the phone for at least a month before they would allow me to answer the phone. We had to know exactly what we were doing when we were talking to these women. We had to find out very quickly what their problem was, play on that and get them in the clinic for an abortion. We were very good salespeople."

-Joy Davis

"Saline abortions have to be done in the hospital because of the complications that can arise. Not that they can't arise during other times, but more so now. The saline, a salt solution, is injected into the woman's sac, and the baby starts dying a slow, violent death. The mother feels everything, and many times it is at this point when she realizes that she really has a live baby inside her, because the baby starts fighting violently, for his or her life. He's just fighting inside because he's burning."

--Debra Harry

"I remember an experience as a resident on a hysterotomy. I remember seeing the baby move underneath the sack of membranes, as the cesarean incision was made, before the doctor broke the water. The thought came to me, "My God, that's a person" Then he broke the water. And when he broke the water, it was like I had a pain in my heart, just like when I saw that first suction abortion. And t hen he delivered the baby,. and I couldn't touch it.. I wasn't much of an assistant. I just stood there, and the reality of what was doing on finally began to seep into my calloused brain and heart. They took that little baby that was making little sounds and moving and kicking, and set it on that table in a cold, stainless steel bowl. Every time I would look over while we were repairing the incision in uterus and finishing the Caesarean, I would see that little person moving in that bowl. And it kicked and moved less and less, of course, as time went on. I can remember going over and looking at the baby when we were done with the surgery and the baby was still alive. You could see the chest was moving and the heart was beating, and the baby would try to take a little breath, and it really hurt inside, and it began to educate me as to what abortion really was."

quoted in "Pro-Choice 1990: Skeletons in the Closet"


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